EP19: The Anchor Effect | Reparenting, Risk, and the Power of Regulation with Talmadge Lowe
"She’s not giving me a hard time; she’s having a hard time."
We often think of leadership and parenting as acts of control. But the greatest tool you have isn’t your ability to "fix" a situation—it’s your ability to stay steady within it.
In this deeply soulful episode, Talmadge Lowe and I sit down to explore the life-changing shift from living in a "bracing" stance—that exhausting, automatic state of being "on guard"—to becoming an anchor for every room you enter. This is more than a conversation about behavior; it is a roadmap for reparenting yourself through the high-stakes act of raising others.
Together, we explore:
The Superpower of Regulation: How to move from a defensive stance to an open, receptive state that steadies your children, your marriage, and your team.
Healing the Inner Child: Practical ways to acknowledge the younger, scared parts of yourself so they no longer drive your adult decisions.
The Future-Self Filter: Why self-love is an action, not a feeling. We discuss making bold decisions today based on the person you are becoming.
This episode is an invitation to choose a more compassionate path toward your own development. It’s a reminder that your worth isn’t tied to perfection: you can make mistakes and still be "good." You can be "grouchy" and still be deeply of service. The work isn't about being flawless; it’s about the bravery of staying present.
01:39 The Transformative Journey of Parenthood
07:15: The Bracing Stance
11:37 Reparenting: Healing the Inner Child
20:55 The Superpowers of Integration and Emotional Regulation
31:04 Embracing Sensitivity and Vulnerability
37:27 Ownership and Repair in Relationships
42:23 Integrity and Its Role in Personal Growth
48:19 Living with Intention and Commitment
01:05:45: Understanding Seva: Service as Healing
01:19:05 Acts of Service and Self-Care
01:30:31 The Journey of Healing
01:34:04 Embracing Mistakes
